I think every parent goes through a period of time where our children find themselves in situations that rattle their self confidence. Perhaps it is a group of mean kids at school, maybe a teacher that has lost his/her compassion for those they teach, or maybe a sport or other competitive activity has turned from healthy life lessons to a political mess of adult goals and favoritism. Regardless, we parents often feel inadequate to help ease the pain of such situations and powerless to protect those that are so dear to our hearts because, in fact, life is not always fair.
I’m in one of those situation now. With four children, this is not the first time I’ve faced the situation and, I suppose, it will not be the last time either. But I wanted to blog about the one thing we can do to help our children, no matter how old they are or become. Confidence is a very important life tool. It becomes a shield to protect from life’s challenges and injustice. We can’t stop the world from presenting difficult times or situations that feel unfair, but we can build and prop-up our children’s confidence.
Remember to tell your children how proud you are of them, tell them they are strong, smart, talented. Find their strengths and give them opportunities to be successful so they can build their identity in confidence. And when life gets hard and people are telling your child they are not good enough…remind your child of their talents, successes, intelligence. Teach your children sometimes things just don’t fit together and that is O.K. Give your children the power to remove themselves from situations that are abusive and everyday they walk out your front door to face the world tell them, “Don’t Forget Who You Are.”
Because who you are is good enough even when others say less.
From one parent to another,